I believe everyone is capable of it, in some regard; but some people simply prefer the alternative, it gives them a control over themselves they would not possess otherwise. I can definitely see the appeal, and in some circumstances, I wish I was able to switch back-and-forth between emotions on the spot, but luckily (in my opinion), I possess a strong sense of emotional consistency. I believe possessing such a trait plays a large part in leading a generally happy and fulfilling life, and I'll tell you why.
A healthy sense of emotional consistency causes you to say less of what you don't mean, or what you soon won't mean. When I'm in love with someone, I am in love with them regardless of certain misfortunes that may occur, and I prefer to say that I love someone, and mean it 2 weeks to a month, or even a year and a half later, as much as I did the first time around, regardless of what may have occurred. This does not bar me from removing 'undesirable' people from my life, although it does mean it takes one hell of a lot on someone else's part to become what I see as an undesirable person. In the event that I did indeed remove someone from my life, like a friend whose gone rouge in being pointlessly hurtful, or has become a bully of some sort, if I had told them I loved them as a friend, I would still mean that for at least a couple months, until those feelings faded from my life alongside they, themselves. Either that, or they committed an unforgivable deed against myself, or someone else... in which case, not only would they be expelled from my life, they would lose the respect and love I once had for them. This could also occur with a 'forgivable' deed; the difference being what was suggested, that it is forgivable, and if said person proves themselves, they could potentially regain my love and respect for them.
I find people who lack emotional consistency, whether of their own accord or not, to possess a default aura of untrustworthiness, at least when it comes to being very good friends or romantic partners with them. In more of a distant sense, they are just as trustworthy as anyone else. The problem with them is that they lack the same respect I and other emotionally consistent individuals possess regarding matters of the heart, as they are, or would prefer to be transitory in those regards.
People who lack emotional consistency also lack the ability to differentiate between what they mean at a given moment from what they mean in a general sense. I have trained myself to differentiate between the two, and only say what I know I'll mean 2 to 4 months from the day I said it.
Yes, a sense of emotional consistency does indeed lead to sadness sticking around a bit longer, but it also leads to happiness sticking around for much longer as well, and with the right tools in hand, it is easy to pull ones self out of a bought of sadness, and into the ever-flowing current of happiness; just don't expect instant gratification, like those who lack this trait. It is a given that those who possess emotional consistency are stronger, in that sense, than those that live at the whim of their radical emotions, second by second. Some enjoy such a life, while others search for ways around it. For those who are looking for the alternative, I sincerely hope you find it.
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